韋駝

有一天一個智慧的教授問他學生以下的問題：
『為什麼人生氣時說話用喊的？』
One day, a professor asked his students
'Why do we SHOUT instead of speak when we are ANGRY?'

所有學生都想了很久，其中一個學生說：
『因為我們喪失了「冷靜」，所以會用喊的。』
All the students thought for a while. One answered
'Because we lost our cool. That's why we SHOUT.'

教授又問：
『但是為什麼別人就在你旁邊而已，你還是用喊的，
難道不能小聲的說嗎？為什麼總是要用喊的？』
Asked the professor again,
'But the person is just right next to you,
why can't we talk softly but have to SHOUT?'

幾乎所有的學生都七嘴八舌的說了一堆，
但是沒有一個答案是教授滿意的。
Everyone gave their opinions but none was accepted by the professor.

最後教授解釋說：
『當兩個人在生氣的時候，心的距離是很遠的；
而為了掩蓋當中的距離使對方能夠聽見，於是必須用喊的，
Lastly explained by the professor 'When we are ANGRY,
our hearts drift apart. To mask the DISTANCE we felt,
we instinctively SHOUT instead of speak so the other party can hear us.'

但是在喊的同時人會更生氣，更生氣距離就更遠，距離更遠就又要喊得更大聲…』
'But as we SHOUT, we get ANGRIER.
And we felt we drift apart further. So we SHOUT even louder...'

教授接著繼續說：
『而當兩個人在相戀時會怎麼樣呢？情況剛好相反，
不但不會用喊的，而且說話都很輕聲細語，為什麼？
'It is the opposite when we are in love.
Not only we do not shout, we whisper into each other ears. Why?'

因為他們的心很接近，心與心之間幾乎沒有距離，
所以相戀中的兩個人通常是耳語式的說話，
但是心中的愛因而更深，到後來根本不須要言語。
只用眼神就可以傳情，而那時心與心之間早已沒有了所謂的距離了…』
'This is because our hearts are very close,
almost never apart. As our love deepen,
we reach a state of communication where there is no need for words.'
'We understand each other well enough just by exchanging look,' concluded the professor.

最後教授作了一個結論：
『當兩個人爭吵時，不要讓心的距離變遠，更不要說些心的距離更遠的話，
自然的過了幾天，等到心的距離已經比較沒有那麼遠時，再好好的說吧！』
'Therefore, when we are arguing,
DO NOT speak words that will make our hearts drift apart.
WAIT a few days. When you feel your hearts are no longer far apart,
pick up the conversation and continue from there .